Self-Awareness

As a leader, you probably hear time and time again about the importance of having a growth mindset. We’re told that it’s important to have a positive outlook and to be able to shift our perspective. 

But is it ever possible to take it too far? 

In my opinion, it definitely is. When we take these ideas too far, we wander into the realm of toxic positivity. 

Denying reality and forcing ourselves to be “positive” all the time can have detrimental effects.

As leaders, it’s crucial that we learn …

Emotions in leadership - let’s talk about them!

Have you ever thought that as a leader, you can’t be emotional?

Maybe you’ve heard phrases like “leaders don’t cry” or “leaders stay strong.”

Or perhaps you’ve been afraid of being perceived as weak by your team or that showing emotion may lessen your authority. 

Personally, before I started working on developing my emotional intelligence as a leader, I’d always seen emotions at work as a bad thing.

I felt like I wasn’t allowed to show emotions o…

I'm obsessed with learning. 

Actually, I am obsessed with applying new knowledge to my work and life.

Completing a professional coaching certification and gave me the language to communicate my goals and values. Being part of the #IamRemarkable community has allowed me to learn new approaches to assert myself and share the value I can provide to the world.  All the other programs, services, and courses I have invested in (you can see a more complete list here) have given me permission to evolv…

Why do I ask?

Because the behavior you repeat will determine your results.

A quick definition -

Routine: a sequence of actions and behaviors that are regularly followed.

When was the last time you checked in on whether your behavior led to the results you want?

Why should you care?

As a leader, it's your job to show up as your best self (as often as you can), and your routine will help enable that.

So, are you achieving your goals the way you want?

If you answered no to either question, you mi…

I prefer - 'you are what you do' and that 'reading can help you improve, expand, shift, upgrade, change.'

Unless I am reading a book for pure entertainment, I am always thinking about applying what I'm reading to improve my mental, physical, or emotional well-being.

The long and short of it: Taking care of your needs and remembering you are a human being is the first step to being a better leader, and books can help you not forget that.

My top three books from 2020 are about:

1. How a talen…

This year I decided to do something uncomfortable. Each month I shared my highs and lows on my Instagram.  Each month I shared my reflections and lessons learned. 

These were the top 12 lessons I learned in 2020:

1. Planning gives me confidence
2. I have an amazing network
3. I can be sad and grateful at the same time
4. I have a strong sense of self and it can be very overwhelming to others
5. Boundaries, Boundaries, Boundaries
6. Consistently put yourself out there
7. I can be vulnerable and still an exp…

Earlier this month, I had the opportunity to talk about three things I've learned through having leadership positions at one of my favorite female-focused organizations, FemGems.

I mentioned that I am primarily an introvert, and someone asked how I became comfortable expressing myself out loud. I responded with three key thoughts:

1. Taking the time to learn the stories I was telling myself around speaking: The main story I told myself was that I couldn't slow down and that slowing down my speaki…

Throughout my growth as a leader, I’ve noticed that negative thoughts tend to creep in. These thoughts are based on circumstances in the past, but they get in the way of my being productive in the present.

I’ve found that the best way to get past these thoughts is to have a conversation - to get out of my head and talk through them with someone who can provide a new perspective.

One of my favorite spaces to have that conversation is the Conspiring Women Peer Coaching Co-Op, run by Jen Walper R…

Ok, that is not entirely true, but what I want to suggest is that you focus on how best to leverage your strengths instead.

I love using assessments to learn more about myself and to share how others can use me more effectively.

This week I wanted to share an assessment I sometimes use with my clients:

How You Self Sabotage

I love this assessment because it gives you the vocabulary to talk about some of the things that hold us back.  

When I need to help a leader explain some of the negativ…

❌ This is just who I am

❌ I can’t change

❌ I can’t do any better

Those are all versions statements I used to tell myself and mutter to others when I was afraid or feeling uncomfortable.

Now when I say those statements to myself, I get really curious and start to ask myself:

✅Is this true?

✅Is this statement holding me back?

✅ Am I just afraid and starting to get close to the edge of my comfort zone?

I find that usually, I am my own worst enemy.

A lot of my success has come from jus…