What Did you Just Say to Yourself?
I should be further along with my business.
I can’t believe I haven’t figured out how to position this product yet.
I didn’t get the promotion - there must be something wrong with me.
I am so stupid; I should have seen this coming.
During this crisis, I have become hyper-aware of how I am speaking to myself. Though I’m hanging out at my parents’ house, I spend most of my time alone.
I’ve noticed that when I get frustrated, I call myself a name and get even more annoyed at myself.
I’ve had to stop, take a second and recognize that I am expecting way too much of myself and sometimes others.
Negative self-talk happens. Even before most of us were forced to socially isolate we probably on a daily basis would tell ourselves something that isn’t constructive. What is not normal is dwelling in it and allowing it to impact our work or ruin our entire day.
When I become aware of my negativity, I acknowledge it and have a few pre-selected phrases I want to think of instead.
For example, when I am feeling rushed and impatient with myself because of work:
Old thought: I don’t have enough time to get this done. I should have started earlier. I’m so dumb. Why do I always do this to myself?
New thought: I relax and allow the process to unfold and honor myself for who I am
New thought: It does not need to be perfect. What is the best I can do now?
TAKE ACTION NOW:
What is ONE negative thought you had about yourself this week?
How can you reframe it into something more constructive?
Remember, your thoughts and feelings have an impact on your behaviors and ultimately your results.
Please share this post with someone you think might benefit from some self-compassion.
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