The Helper's Paradox- When Helping Hurts

"The world does not need any more obligated helpers and healers. We've got enough. We need our healers and helpers that are coming from joy, choice, and contribution.”

--Wil Carlos, Visibility and Business Coach

Last Friday, I had the pleasure of hosting an enlightening discussion with Wil Carlos, a business coach with a spiritual twist. Our conversation centered around the Helper’s Paradox- unraveling its essence and exploring its implications for service providers.

[Listen to our entire conversation about the Helper’s Paradox here]

Our conversation covered some very interesting topics and questions:

1. What is the helper’s paradox? Wil emphasizes the detrimental impact of approaching helping from a place of need and how this can hinder the healing of both the individual and the planet. [Listen at 6:02]
2. The first steps to take when you’re struggling with the paradox- Wil dives into the pillars of the impostor complex- Procrastination, overwhelm, people-pleasing, and more  [Listen at 8:03]
3. How boundaries influence the helper’s paradox - Wil emphasizes the significance of healthy boundaries to avoid burnout and maintain well-being. Listen at 12:07]
4.  How to identify and clear limiting beliefs - He shares on how to identify specific negative voices and clear them energetically. He also walks us through a quick demonstration of how his process works [Listen at 15:19]
5. The three major relationships - Wil identifies three major relationships that are crucial for business success: relationship with oneself, relationship with the world (visibility and work in the world), and relationship with God (or a divine/universal understanding). [Listen at 44:17]

[Listen to the full conversation here]

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