you are what you read

My Top 3 Books of 2020

I prefer - 'you are what you do' and that 'reading can help you improve, expand, shift, upgrade, change.'

Unless I am reading a book for pure entertainment, I am always thinking about applying what I'm reading to improve my mental, physical, or emotional well-being.

The long and short of it: Taking care of your needs and remembering you are a human being is the first step to being a better leader, and books can help you not forget that.

Akua Favorite 2020 Books

My top three books from 2020 are about:

  1. How a talen…

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100% of Us Do This

Week #23

Did you figure it out?

Come on, guess!

Fine, I will tell you…

It is procrastination.


Because as humans, we are not designed to do scary things - and our brains are trying to protect us.  

We create habits to avoid things - to protect and relieve ourselves from perceived fear and anxiety, such as rejection, judgment, or failure.

This habit is called procrastination.

This video gives you a great starting point on how to change your habit of avoiding: 

  1. Acknowledge it - For example, …

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What Did you Just Say to Yourself?

Week #22

I should be further along with my business.

I can’t believe I haven’t figured out how to position this product yet.

I didn’t get the promotion - there must be something wrong with me.

I am so stupid; I should have seen this coming.

During this crisis, I have become hyper-aware of how I am speaking to myself.  Though I’m hanging out at my parents’ house, I spend most of my time alone. 

I’ve noticed that when I get frustrated, I call myself a name and get even more annoyed at myself.

I’ve ha…

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I Want to Speak Better

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Being able to communicate and connect with all types of stakeholders is key to being a successful leader. The most important component might be building our self-awareness to understand where we stand and how we can improve. Communicating, like all soft skills, is like a muscle that needs to be worked out.

As a leader, one of the responsibilities I had that would scare the heck out of me was speaking.  Whether I had to lead a team meeting or have a press conference, I was always second-guessing…

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How I Make the Most of My Career As an INTJ


I used to cringe at the thought of making calls. I would tell my close friends that I hated small talk and would avoid any and every opportunity to interact with strangers, especially in a group setting. The thought of having a more than a five-minute conversation on the phone, even with someone I knew well, used to freak me out. 

Now I have one to two-hour conversations for a living, and sometimes it is difficult to get me to shut up during my sessions. I genuinely and thoroughly enjoy facilit…

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How Well Positioned is Your Career?


Wherever you are in your career - how well positioned are you?

Beyond technical skills and the obvious of course.

To get a job and keep it, you need more than technical skills.

In October 2019 I was asked to be part of a panel on career positioning in the digital age alongside representatives from the largest banks and financial institutions in Nigeria including Ecobank.

Before the panel, I was given the opportunity to present my thoughts on the most important skills for CFA (Chartered Fin…

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Investing in Myself for Others


Since 2017 I have invested over $50k into my personal and professional development

So, I was initially shocked (and scared to share this) when I calculated the numbers, but I was really curious and inspired by a coach I have worked with who has done something similar.  I invested a little over $25k in mostly coaching and consulting related education and business development if I remove the $30k I spent on my leadership-focused MBA.  

So far, I have invested in:

  • Therapy
  • Astrology/ Numerolog…

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Favorite Mindset Podcasts

Favorite Podcasts

I listen to these podcasts regularly and they always are shifting how I think about certain topics and behaviors.


In coaching, we generally believe that our thoughts impact our emotions which ultimately impact our behavior or actions. 

What you listen to and believe has a large impact on your ability to get things done.

What are you listening to? Is it helping you move forward or holding you back?

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